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Title: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 01:10:58 am
I am always so nervous and anxious that I will be horrible at my cosplay..

I am wondering if other people feel like this? like you're cosplay won't suit you or that people will mock you?

maybe I'm just paranoid.. lmao >w<

I just need some words of encouragment and inspiration, I think^^;

I'll love you forever^^
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Saki-the-cat on July 22, 2011, 01:40:14 am
Oh man xD I had sort of the same problem when i first cosplayed. The first time i ever cosplayed in a public place was when i went to the second Death note live-action movie in theatres as L. I got a couple of awkward looks by people in the parking lot and the snack stand, but so far so good. Then when i got into the theatre, everyone was like "Hi L!" in hushed voices xD Then i sat down with a group of cosplayers there and i had a blast.

Cosplay meetups have been my greatest source of finding friends and people to hang out with. Heck, i met the girl that ended up becoming my first real best friend at the first cosplay meetup i had ever been to last year. Plus, cosplay meetups are great for photos, exercise, getting out of the house and seeing new people, and most of all having a ton of random and crazy fun ^^

So far, i've never been called names or teased for cosplaying, but if anyone does to you, just ignore them :| Judging people by what they wear, no matter how silly or "different" it is, is something that they teach you not to do in pre school. To put it simply: It's just rude.
And if anyone says you don't look like the character, screw that, you know what? You ARN'T the character. I've cosplayed as so many characters that i look nothing like before and i still had a great time cosplaying as those characters because i really liked them. There arn't going to be many people in this world with the face or body of some sexy blonde god/goddess from some romance manga. It's not possible.
And if anyone says your cosplay is wrong or innacurate because you're missing a piece of it or the color is slightly off, just ignore that. It's not the easiest thing in the world to get fabrics that perfectly match up to the colors of the character's outfit, so it shouldn't be a big deal. And sometimes it's hard to find pieces of a costume, such as a prop or something attached to the main costume. As long as people are able to look at the ourfit you're wearing and be able to say "Oh! That's [insert character's name here]!", you shouldn't have any problems.

Anyways, good luck with cosplaying for the first time and i can't wait to meet you at the mall meetup this Sunday ^^
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 02:41:24 am
ahh ^^;; Thank you so much Saki, you made me feel a lot better :D but this isn't my first time cosplaying >w< but it IS my first detailed, intricate and intense cosplay! Your kind words have made me smile, I appreciate the love^^ thanks Again! <3
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:17:43 am
Ritsu-chan, go out there are just have fun with it.  If the squares in the world have a problem with your cosplay it's there problem not yours.  But if you want a fun visual that will make laugh.  This is my 3rd Kumoricon and the first time I'm going in cosplay.  Im a short fat girl and I'm cosplaying Vash the stampede a tall skinny guy and a genderbend of Wolfwood another tall skinny guy from Trigun.  I'm sure I will end up on an epic fail website but I love the characters and I'm just going to go out there and have a great time.  I'm sure your cosplay will be awesome.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:29:23 am
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure

The way I feel about it is that there is something that your BF/GF spouse can hold onto.  Who really wants to be a stick insect.  I've never known a dieter that is a happy person.  You realize that the word DIE is in diet.  Need I say more?  LOL    ;D
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: superjaz on July 22, 2011, 09:26:06 am
I have felt that way before and still do some times, because hey I am over weight.  After telling people I am pregnant, a lot told me don't gain too much weight.  I would like to point out I haven't. Maybe 6-8 lbs total with another 6-10 to go according to doc.

 Even now while I am bigger then I have ever been since I am pregnant, the way my body looks, unless you know me and that I am preggers, I just look fatter to other people.  Tho they are not allowed to feel my belly and see its full of a baby that kicks more then a ninja monkey. 

One thing that I think helps is finding something you are comfy  in to wear or cosplay. By comfy I mean both physically and emotionally
 Something that makes you feel as awesome as you are.

Like I got my awesome maternity shirt in the mail this week that I plan to wear to con, Its like I am saying yes I chubby...and full of BABY!!
(https://www.kumoricon.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimage.spreadshirt.com%2Fimage-server%2Fimage%2Fcomposition%2F18544230%2Fview%2F1%2Fproducttypecolor%2F2%2Ftype%2Fpng%2Fwidth%2F280%2Fheight%2F280%2Fskeleton-maternity-costume-mens-4x_design.png&hash=5c88c90e86210aec61cb735e930f7cf759e47b0f)


Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 09:33:10 am
Quote from: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:29:23 am
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure

The way I feel about it is that there is something that your BF/GF spouse can hold onto.  Who really wants to be a stick insect.  I've never known a dieter that is a happy person.  You realize that the word DIE is in diet.  Need I say more?  LOL    ;D

Yeah but when your told never wear lolita it makes me super mad ><
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Raven on July 22, 2011, 10:05:28 am
I always feel this way, to be honest  ...
And like some of the others posting so far, it's partly to do with my body image ... I'm chubby myself, and well, I have an awkward time doing crossplays because my figure is too womanly T__T (even though I prefer doing Crossplays *does not like looking girly*)... I also worry because I'm not exactly the youngest person anymore and feel kind of old compared to so many of the other cosplayers who are still in their teens *is 27 years old* .... but I do it anyway, because I just like the characters I cosplay as and I think it's loads of fun ...
But I always wonder is people will accept me as the character I am cosplaying as ... still, I say that it's more important to do what you love, whether or not you make the best looking "whatever character you're cosplaying as" ... it's just important to have fun and love what you are doing!! ^__^
There will always be someone out there who will think you look awesome too, if that helps any!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 10:57:43 am
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure
YOU ARE NOT FAT! but i know how you feel, I feel like people will be like look, fat (insert cosplay name here)~ =w=
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 10:59:04 am
Quote from: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:29:23 am
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure

The way I feel about it is that there is something that your BF/GF spouse can hold onto.  Who really wants to be a stick insect.  I've never known a dieter that is a happy person.  You realize that the word DIE is in diet.  Need I say more?  LOL    ;D
I.. LOVE... YOU! XD you are so great!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 11:03:59 am
Thank You SO much everyone! you guys make me feel much less paranoid^^ I appreciate all your kind words and personal stories! <3
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Saki-the-cat on July 22, 2011, 11:20:22 am
Quote from: superjaz on July 22, 2011, 09:26:06 am

Like I got my awesome maternity shirt in the mail this week that I plan to wear to con, Its like I am saying yes I chubby...and full of BABY!!
(https://www.kumoricon.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimage.spreadshirt.com%2Fimage-server%2Fimage%2Fcomposition%2F18544230%2Fview%2F1%2Fproducttypecolor%2F2%2Ftype%2Fpng%2Fwidth%2F280%2Fheight%2F280%2Fskeleton-maternity-costume-mens-4x_design.png&hash=5c88c90e86210aec61cb735e930f7cf759e47b0f)




I'm sorry, but i just have to point out that that shirt is awesome xD
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on July 22, 2011, 11:38:44 am
I have insecurities as well but most of mine come from my body. If a costume I have looks like crap I wont wear it like what happened with my N cosplay at Sakuracon this year.

But my main problem is that I like characters with revealing costumes and I haven't had too much of a problem until recently with Lilith and now Asuka's plug suit. I mean I wore Kuja for crying out loud but my body looks thinner if looking at skin than looking at tight fabric over skin. And in costumes like that I am always concerned about what others think. To help me with this issue I have a workout motivation folder that I look at before working out :D
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Gryffinclaw Princess on July 22, 2011, 11:51:06 am
I have never felt insecure in cosplay but I have had some bad things happen.
I was with a Death Note group my first Kumo and we were all moderately dressed. We were all crossplayers and having a blast.
Then some normal girl comes up and starts ragging on us about how we are freaks. She started a fight with one girl in our group and then she left. Then she came back and tried to throw more punches. Then she left again... Then CAME BACK! We had to run to the hotel and ask a staff member to deal with them. They called security and when the girl and her friends saw us and made a bee line the security caught her and forced them onto the max to leave. :/

That's the only ever bad thing that happened but it didn't stop me. People give me weird looks sometimes but so what?
Last year I walked around without a shirt on half the time as Sasuko. I would get too hot and then just slip my arms out of my shirt (It's Sasuke's open shirt from Shippuden) so it was hanging around my waist. It was still in character and people never looked at me wrong which I was surprised at.


On the same side, I think some people need to feel insecure or a little worried about how they choose to dress. I was ready for something to happen to me but it never did. Other people seem too...well too secure.
Last year while in Pre-Reg line on Day 0 there was this larger girl in front of us in a white shirt with NO BRA! She was sweating like a sumo in a sweat house and her shirt was see through. D: I will never unsee her saggy boobs.
So don't be so secure that you walk around like that. But I guess that's more of a dignity thing, iunno. I'm pretty much all for, wear what you want unless I can see through it, or it's too tight. I don't like camel toe no matter how fat or skinny you are. :/
People who judge you on your size need a reality check but still be wary of what you wear. Some things shouldn't be worn by anyone, no matter their size. And make sure your outfits fit you and aren't super, super tight.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on July 22, 2011, 12:07:50 pm
Alright now that I am done making pancakes I can make a little bit longer post.

Lets see my first Kumoricon was in 07 and I went Sunday and Monday. At the time my best friend went the whole weekend with some of her friends that I really disliked so I didn't join her on Saturday. She texted me a lot while she was there talking about all the stuff going on so I decided to go. I didn't dress up at all Saturday and when I showed up I felt so left out. I'm not sure if this is your first con as well but I felt like I was the odd one out because I WASN'T cosplaying. The ext day I threw together a crappy Ritsuka cosplay from loveless (it was a terrible closet cosplay). I had more fun then.

Sakuracon 08 came around and that was my first actual cosplay. I did Youji from Loveless and I had a blast. I actually ended up meeting one of my best friends there through a girl that was also dressed as Youji. She came up to me for a picture and asked if I wanted to be an extra in their skit and I said sure. Thats when I met Bang Bang Neko and I <3 them so much.

Shortly after Sak I went to my first meetup after joining the forums. We went to the rose festival. I went alone so it was hard walking down the streets as Temari (Naruto). Again, once I meet up with people we had a blast.

After having so much fun at that meet-up I hosted my own, a picnic and about 60 people showed up. There I met so many people. Several of them became very close friends. I found out that one of the guys there lived about a quarter mile away from me and was going to go to OSU that year and stay in the same dorm as me. We are still close friends, some of you may know him a Patrick King, Patar, Mr. Mustach you name it. I also convinced two twins to cosplay for the first time and now I am close friends with them. I actually hung out with Meg yesterday and a few days ago we went to a sex shop where I got my newest wig ^_^

Because I knew Bronte from Bang Bang Neko I went to a dance where I met Zach Marsh from the anime hunters. I now live about a block away from him. I met the rest of the group and ended up dating one of them for a few months. Mewcon 09/10 I meet Lizzie Peterson through Zach and now she is my roommate.

I also met Ninja of the Night through Zach and I lived across the street from them for a while. Kayla made me this awesome cake for my birthday :3
(https://www.kumoricon.org/forums/proxy.php?request=https%3A%2F%2Flh4.googleusercontent.com%2F-drTUHPfSIHw%2FTh353gjkTYI%2FAAAAAAAAAFc%2FK76cFnymF3k%2Fw350-h263-k%2F11%252B-%252B1&hash=53fae58c92e5916ae6053f3015b589ef7abef3a3)

So basically the moral is yes it may seem scary at first but don't really worry too much about what others think and just do it. I still can't walk alone downtown in a very elaborate costume so I still know how that is. But keep in mind that every cosplayer had to start sometime so they went through the same thing you did.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: BlackjackGabbiani on July 22, 2011, 12:15:03 pm
It's odd. I'm quite fat but I've never felt insecurity over it.

No, my insecurity comes from feeling SHORT. I'm five foot six! That's not all that short, but I'm surrounded by all these very tall people at the con and it makes me feel like no one can even *see* me.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Gryffinclaw Princess on July 22, 2011, 12:21:17 pm
:/ I'm 5'3"...

Nikki - I love that cake~<3
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 12:46:24 pm
I'm 5'6" and no I'm not 6' like I wish I was but I'm not that short either. Everyone in my family is tall my little brother is 6'4" and my mom is 5'11" but I'm the same height as my gf and we like it that way, my insecurity comes from my weight, especially my chubby baby face =w= how the eff do i tone my JAW?
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 03:19:55 pm
Lmfao , my issue is my height and weight . Im a fat 5'5" - 5'4" cosplayer xD i feel like im not good enough to make amazing cosplayers or whatever. I dont know , i agree with .. You all on stuff?
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Raven on July 22, 2011, 03:42:12 pm
If it helps any, I'm 5'2 and chubby ... XD ... but honestly, my height doesn't bother me at all, just my weight ... and my face too I guess ... I just have a stupid face! XD ... but oh well! Cosplaying is fun, and that is all that matters!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:33:49 pm
I'm 5'6" [i think] and chubby fat but cosplaying is still triple fun! I also have chubby cheeks that make me look like a hamster. and my VERY poofy thick ginger/light brown hair doesn't really help. but hey, that's genetics. However, it does bother me sometimes when my much skinnier friends say they're fat and need to work out and I'm sitting over here with a bag of cheetos like "What?"
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:34:52 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 03:19:55 pm
Lmfao , my issue is my height and weight . Im a fat 5'5" - 5'4" cosplayer xD i feel like im not good enough to make amazing cosplayers or whatever. I dont know , i agree with .. You all on stuff?
I have to say this, I have seen you at kumoricon as Mustang before and you are AMAZING, I think you are a great cosplayer and I admire you
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:42:17 pm
@ tanuki I know what you mean about your friends, my gf and my best friend are both thin and talk about how they need to diet or work out and I'm like umm =w= lol and I go on te getting in shape for kumo 2011 thread on here and people are like i'm 5'6" and weigh 131 and I'm gonna lose weight and I'm like I've never been 131 in my life lol (well at least not since elementary school lol)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:48:13 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:42:17 pm
@ tanuki I know what you mean about your friends, my gf and my best friend are both thin and talk about how they need to diet or work out and I'm like umm =w= lol and I go on te getting in shape for kumo 2011 thread on here and people are like i'm 5'6" and weigh 131 and I'm gonna lose weight and I'm like I've never been 131 in my life lol (well at least not since elementary school lol)

TOTALLY. I'm always a little worried about doing cosplays that go together with my best friend's cause she's thin and i'm bleh. I sometimes think that people are gonna be like "wow, look at her cosplay!" and then look at me and go "what is that?" But i don't let it bother me much cause they can just go away. all that matters is i like to cosplay and i also like food.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 05:07:55 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:48:13 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:42:17 pm
@ tanuki I know what you mean about your friends, my gf and my best friend are both thin and talk about how they need to diet or work out and I'm like umm =w= lol and I go on te getting in shape for kumo 2011 thread on here and people are like i'm 5'6" and weigh 131 and I'm gonna lose weight and I'm like I've never been 131 in my life lol (well at least not since elementary school lol)

TOTALLY. I'm always a little worried about doing cosplays that go together with my best friend's cause she's thin and i'm bleh. I sometimes think that people are gonna be like "wow, look at her cosplay!" and then look at me and go "what is that?" But i don't let it bother me much cause they can just go away. all that matters is i like to cosplay and i also like food.
yeah, thats how it goes, it's like a universal law lol but it's ok cuz we are awesome!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 06:13:49 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 05:07:55 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:48:13 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:42:17 pm
@ tanuki I know what you mean about your friends, my gf and my best friend are both thin and talk about how they need to diet or work out and I'm like umm =w= lol and I go on te getting in shape for kumo 2011 thread on here and people are like i'm 5'6" and weigh 131 and I'm gonna lose weight and I'm like I've never been 131 in my life lol (well at least not since elementary school lol)

TOTALLY. I'm always a little worried about doing cosplays that go together with my best friend's cause she's thin and i'm bleh. I sometimes think that people are gonna be like "wow, look at her cosplay!" and then look at me and go "what is that?" But i don't let it bother me much cause they can just go away. all that matters is i like to cosplay and i also like food.
yeah, thats how it goes, it's like a universal law lol but it's ok cuz we are awesome!

internet high five
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 06:36:36 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:34:52 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 03:19:55 pm
Lmfao , my issue is my height and weight . Im a fat 5'5" - 5'4" cosplayer xD i feel like im not good enough to make amazing cosplayers or whatever. I dont know , i agree with .. You all on stuff?
I have to say this, I have seen you at kumoricon as Mustang before and you are AMAZING, I think you are a great cosplayer and I admire you
zdfsdgfd. omg ; /// ; I'm very much so flattered. I don't recall seeing you - but dsfgfd. thank you.

ON TOPIC THOUGH ,

oddly , Sakuracon makes me weary .. so many great cosplays . People there are more ... i dont know how to put it.
but kcon makes me feel at home. we're friendly ?
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on July 22, 2011, 07:09:45 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 06:36:36 pm

oddly , Sakuracon makes me weary .. so many great cosplays . People there are more ... i dont know how to put it.
but kcon makes me feel at home. we're friendly ?

I wouldn't worry too much about Sakuracon. Yeah there are a lot of good cosplayers there but there are A LOT of PEOPLE there so you kinda blend in. I would actually think Kumoricon would be worse since you know a large majority of the people there.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: superjaz on July 22, 2011, 07:19:19 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:48:13 pm

TOTALLY. I'm always a little worried about doing cosplays that go together with my best friend's cause she's thin and i'm bleh. I sometimes think that people are gonna be like "wow, look at her cosplay!" and then look at me and go "what is that?" But i don't let it bother me much cause they can just go away. all that matters is i like to cosplay and i also like food.

Thats how it was growing up with my brothers (who inherited the metabolism and tallness) I am 5 3 I felt like "these are my sons! and thats my daughter...

Esp funny is my hubby is 6 2'' and skinny. Tho how I don't know cuz he eats all the time!  But it works cuz he can make me feel tiny and cute.  Most of the time, right now, too full of baby to feel little anything but sore feel (but so worth it)

Tho I do hope that baby gets the tall genes

I just
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nekovamp13 on July 22, 2011, 08:05:43 pm
I hate my body...Okay, not hate, but I dislike my size and am working on it. But the best thing about cosplay is most people don't even know who you are. So who really cares what they think?! I mean, I do care, b/c I want to become a well-known cosplayer, but really, you should just have fun. And if people hurt on you, that's b/c they're jealous that they can't have the skills to do such a great cosplay as you ;)

Just have fun, and there will always be people out there to praise you lol
Do something unique! I make all my cosplays from clothes I get from Goodwill and such and people think that's absolutely awesome! No matter how I really look in the outfit.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 08:45:09 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 06:36:36 pm
oddly , Sakuracon makes me weary .. so many great cosplays . People there are more ... i dont know how to put it.
but kcon makes me feel at home. we're friendly ?

I know exactly what you're talking about. Sakuracon seems like the big leagues while Kcon is like a home town get together with all your friends.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 09:30:10 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 06:13:49 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 05:07:55 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on July 22, 2011, 04:48:13 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:42:17 pm
@ tanuki I know what you mean about your friends, my gf and my best friend are both thin and talk about how they need to diet or work out and I'm like umm =w= lol and I go on te getting in shape for kumo 2011 thread on here and people are like i'm 5'6" and weigh 131 and I'm gonna lose weight and I'm like I've never been 131 in my life lol (well at least not since elementary school lol)

TOTALLY. I'm always a little worried about doing cosplays that go together with my best friend's cause she's thin and i'm bleh. I sometimes think that people are gonna be like "wow, look at her cosplay!" and then look at me and go "what is that?" But i don't let it bother me much cause they can just go away. all that matters is i like to cosplay and i also like food.
yeah, thats how it goes, it's like a universal law lol but it's ok cuz we are awesome!

internet high five
and a fist ppound :3 boom~ lol
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 09:32:50 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 06:36:36 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 22, 2011, 04:34:52 pm
Quote from: CLAP_attack on July 22, 2011, 03:19:55 pm
Lmfao , my issue is my height and weight . Im a fat 5'5" - 5'4" cosplayer xD i feel like im not good enough to make amazing cosplayers or whatever. I dont know , i agree with .. You all on stuff?
I have to say this, I have seen you at kumoricon as Mustang before and you are AMAZING, I think you are a great cosplayer and I admire you
zdfsdgfd. omg ; /// ; I'm very much so flattered. I don't recall seeing you - but dsfgfd. thank you.

ON TOPIC THOUGH ,

oddly , Sakuracon makes me weary .. so many great cosplays . People there are more ... i dont know how to put it.
but kcon makes me feel at home. we're friendly ?
lol I'm not rememberable, I had a crappy cosplay lol but this year.. it'll be different! I've never been to any other cons, I have to save up all year just for kumo!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Jluvial on July 22, 2011, 10:04:50 pm
I know that feeling... I hope that not only will my sewing come out well, but everything else I need to do for this crossplay. Makeup is so strange to me...
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: EveofAbyss on July 22, 2011, 11:22:28 pm
I just want to encourage everyone to try and discern the difference between "people hating on your cosplay and being mean" and people giving genuine criticism with the intent to make you a better cosplayer. I think everyone should have fun with their cosplay, but should also aim to do the best they can. So, if someone is truly just trying to give you some helpful advice, try to be understanding and apply it to make your costume better.

It's one thing for someone to be rude (and these people don't deserve your time or distress), but if someone tries to give you some valid advice, try to be understanding and make your cosplay as amazing as it can be. Always strive to be the best and do the best job! ^_^
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: OokamiYami on July 23, 2011, 12:30:48 am
Quote from: EveofAbyss on July 22, 2011, 11:22:28 pm
I just want to encourage everyone to try and discern the difference between "people hating on your cosplay and being mean" and people giving genuine criticism with the intent to make you a better cosplayer. I think everyone should have fun with their cosplay, but should also aim to do the best they can. So, if someone is truly just trying to give you some helpful advice, try to be understanding and apply it to make your costume better.

It's one thing for someone to be rude (and these people don't deserve your time or distress), but if someone tries to give you some valid advice, try to be understanding and make your cosplay as amazing as it can be. Always strive to be the best and do the best job! ^_^

I agree with EveofAbyss. Cosplay is all about having fun. Just don't mind those idiotic people who complain a lot. If they want freaking professional cosplayers, they might as well head to Japan or something. But seriously, just have fun and don't mind them. :)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: @random on July 23, 2011, 12:57:05 am
To me, the difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism can be seen most clearly in this: Are they already aware of what you're going to say, and do they have any control over it?

If you're criticizing someone with something they already know... why? Is it likely that a stranger's opinion will make someone change their mind about that which they already know? Or is it most likely to hurt feelings or start a fight?

And if you're criticizing someone for something they can't change... why? Isn't that kinda being a whole new level of jerk?

~~~

Like EveofAbyss says, people who destructively criticize aren't worth the time. If you're having fun with it and you're not hurting anyone, your opinion is just as valid as (if not more than) theirs. And if it's something you can't change, then by definition their criticism is pointless.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 23, 2011, 09:24:35 am
Quote from: randompvg on July 23, 2011, 12:57:05 am
To me, the difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism can be seen most clearly in this: Are they already aware of what you're going to say, and do they have any control over it?

If you're criticizing someone with something they already know... why? Is it likely that a stranger's opinion will make someone change their mind about that which they already know? Or is it most likely to hurt feelings or start a fight?

And if you're criticizing someone for something they can't change... why? Isn't that kinda being a whole new level of jerk?

YES! like when people walk by or drive by and call me a fat dyke or a lesbo or whatever, it's hurts a little but then I start laughing, like " WHAT? I DIDN"T KNOW I WAS GAY! OH LORDY HELP ME!! T~T I DIDN'T KNOW DATING ANOTHER WOMAN MADE ME GAY!!" lmfao

Basically I'm just afraid to be remember as fat (insert cosplay here)... but you all help me to feel like that won't happen
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: EveofAbyss on July 23, 2011, 09:39:46 am
If that is a valid fear for you, I'll be the one to encourage you to cosplay to your body type. It's only a suggestion, so of course take it or leave it, but I know cosplaying to your body type can go far in cosplay believability.

But then again, as everyone else here has said, ultimately you should do what you want and do what you will have the most fun with. It's not to be expected that everyone cosplaying is entering some competition. Most are doing it just for fun, so it's unfair to hold everyone to competitive standards. I can understand that, but I will still put the encouragement out there. I'm a huge 350 lb. dude and I try to cosplay to my body type, and it makes me feel worlds better about my cosplays once finished, because I don't have that fear of misrepresenting my character. Just an offered option.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 23, 2011, 09:43:50 am
Quote from: EveofAbyss on July 23, 2011, 09:39:46 am
If that is a valid fear for you, I'll be the one to encourage you to cosplay to your body type. It's only a suggestion, so of course take it or leave it, but I know cosplaying to your body type can go far in cosplay believability.

But then again, as everyone else here has said, ultimately you should do what you want and do what you will have the most fun with. It's not to be expected that everyone cosplaying is entering some competition. Most are doing it just for fun, so it's unfair to hold everyone to competitive standards. I can understand that, but I will still put the encouragement out there. I'm a huge 350 lb. dude and I try to cosplay to my body type, and it makes me feel worlds better about my cosplays once finished, because I don't have that fear of misrepresenting my character. Just an offered option.
Thank you :D I think that by choosing male characters I am choosing something more appropriate for my body since that's how I dress most of the time any ways^^
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: @random on July 23, 2011, 12:40:23 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 23, 2011, 09:24:35 am
YES! like when people walk by or drive by and call me a fat dyke or a lesbo or whatever, it's hurts a little but then I start laughing, like " WHAT? I DIDN"T KNOW I WAS GAY! OH LORDY HELP ME!! T~T I DIDN'T KNOW DATING ANOTHER WOMAN MADE ME GAY!!" lmfao

Basically I'm just afraid to be remember as fat (insert cosplay here)... but you all help me to feel like that won't happen

That was the best... I haven't laughed like that in at least a good couple of days; thank you. <3

And that really is the best way to deal with stuff that's stressful, hurtful, or a bunch of other -fuls... pretend it's funny, even when it isn't. But usually it's possible to see how it IS funny. All ya have to do is step outside the situation for a moment to realize how petty, dumb, childish, and/or whatever else* it is.

(* -I have to do this on a regular basis with some of my coworkers, and I've found it helps to imagine them as a petulant six-year-old. Bonus points if you can imagine an expression like Chris Crocker. ;))
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on July 23, 2011, 11:26:28 pm
Quote from: randompvg on July 23, 2011, 12:40:23 pm
Quote from: Ritsu-chan on July 23, 2011, 09:24:35 am
YES! like when people walk by or drive by and call me a fat dyke or a lesbo or whatever, it's hurts a little but then I start laughing, like " WHAT? I DIDN"T KNOW I WAS GAY! OH LORDY HELP ME!! T~T I DIDN'T KNOW DATING ANOTHER WOMAN MADE ME GAY!!" lmfao

Basically I'm just afraid to be remember as fat (insert cosplay here)... but you all help me to feel like that won't happen

That was the best... I haven't laughed like that in at least a good couple of days; thank you. <3

And that really is the best way to deal with stuff that's stressful, hurtful, or a bunch of other -fuls... pretend it's funny, even when it isn't. But usually it's possible to see how it IS funny. All ya have to do is step outside the situation for a moment to realize how petty, dumb, childish, and/or whatever else* it is.

(* -I have to do this on a regular basis with some of my coworkers, and I've found it helps to imagine them as a petulant six-year-old. Bonus points if you can imagine an expression like Chris Crocker. ;))
lol thank you for your kind words, you make me laugh^^
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tobias on August 01, 2011, 08:05:53 pm
Well, I'll post my story. 

I've got a problem when it comes to cosplaying: I'm black. I've got very few options if I want to be an accurate cosplayer, and most of the characters I don't like or I've never heard of them.  Last year was my first time cosplaying as Russia from hetalia.  I chose to cosplay that because I love the charachter.  I was really nervouse that people would make fun of me or not talk to me because I was chosing someone clearly not for me, (ie: skinny and white) Race has never been an issue for me,   When I went to the photoshoot I had a blast! The people are always friendly, regardless of who you are. I've been stopped in the street by past hetalia cosplayer who know me as afro russia XD.

(TL;DR) I'm bad with words, but what I'm trying to say is that do a cosplay because you love it.  Regardless of what others think, if you're having fun, then that should be all that matters.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 01, 2011, 11:00:07 pm
Thanks for your story, you reminded me of what's really important here!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 01, 2011, 11:15:49 pm
another thing is that its called cosPLAY not cosSERIOUS. Cosplay is supposed to be fun! its in the name!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 01, 2011, 11:47:14 pm
You all rock my world so much! You know just what to say to get me back on track!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Drauska on August 03, 2011, 12:13:23 pm
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 09:33:10 am
Quote from: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:29:23 am
Quote from: Jacob_Blackfeather on July 22, 2011, 07:21:55 am
I always feel like people are staring at me becvausde I feel fat >< I am ver isecure

The way I feel about it is that there is something that your BF/GF spouse can hold onto.  Who really wants to be a stick insect.  I've never known a dieter that is a happy person.  You realize that the word DIE is in diet.  Need I say more?  LOL    ;D

Yeah but when your told never wear lolita it makes me super mad ><

Wear that Lolita and rock the socks off of it!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: mellonemrys on August 04, 2011, 04:35:19 pm
I've been lucky in that my mom is a costume nut, and is a larger woman who doesn't care what other people think of her costumes. She just puts her all into whatever she makes and rocks them. I'm not always that confident about cosplaying certain characters, but I'm getting to the point where I just want to wear what I want, and too bad if other people don't like the fact that I'm not a perfect clone of the character.

This year is my first year cosplaying a really (currently) popular character/costume though...that's honestly what I'm most paranoid about...^^;;
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: shikyo on August 04, 2011, 07:26:40 pm
I don't cosplay for con goers I cosplay because I absolutely LOVE the "publics" reactions. There's just something about the joy of seeing the publics  :o ??? ;D look when you walk down the street or going into diners. I'm overweight but truely, I don't care what people think, life is way too short to always be worrying. Love your body. <3
A cosplayer shouldn't feel insecure whether they're thin or overweight. It's all about having fun and because you love the character you chose. The only issue I do have is when too much skin is showing, thin or not.. If you(as in general) have rolls, please keep them covered. Choose characters that have the right amount of clothing, for example I'm overweight so I choose characters that have a lot of clothing on. I cosplay Hannah from Kuroshitsuji, she's tall, thin, and darker skin then me but you know what, her clothes are what fits me because nothing is being shown. An overweight cosplayer can look great with the right cosplay.  ;D
My hannah cosplay ;D
(https://www.kumoricon.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv352%2Fmjbgsd%2FIMG_3928-1.jpg&hash=8015e9caf8f858799d2d0d13106f9c230ff329e9)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Dubaby on August 04, 2011, 09:30:41 pm
There's always a bit of insecurity involved with everything I cosplay..... I want to look as accurate and nice as possible, so especially when I'm pulling a cosplay together there's always those concerns and worries floating around the back of my head.

I've seen cosplay as an opportunity to work on my self-esteem by getting feedback from the people around me, and also fills the void left by my no longer participating in theatre which was such a big part of my life. So yeah, there are moments where I feel really insecure, but I think that's just a natural reaction when you're putting so much time and energy into something, particularly when it relates mostly to your appearance.

As far as modesty level goes, I generally have a hard time with anything that shows my stomach, is REALLY skin-tight, or shows my upper thigh, which sucks because there are a few characters I'd really like to do but I'm too afraid to try because of this. Here's to hoping that as I continue to cosplay though that I'll gain more confidence in not only my costuming skills, but in myself. =]
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Jacob_Blackfeather on August 04, 2011, 09:39:20 pm
Quote from: shikyo on August 04, 2011, 07:26:40 pm
I don't cosplay for con goers I cosplay because I absolutely LOVE the "publics" reactions. There's just something about the joy of seeing the publics  :o ??? ;D look when you walk down the street or going into diners. I'm overweight but truely, I don't care what people think, life is way too short to always be worrying. Love your body. <3
A cosplayer shouldn't feel insecure whether they're thin or overweight. It's all about having fun and because you love the character you chose. The only issue I do have is when too much skin is showing, thin or not.. If you(as in general) have rolls, please keep them covered. Choose characters that have the right amount of clothing, for example I'm overweight so I choose characters that have a lot of clothing on. I cosplay Hannah from Kuroshitsuji, she's tall, thin, and darker skin then me but you know what, her clothes are what fits me because nothing is being shown. An overweight cosplayer can look great with the right cosplay.  ;D
My hannah cosplay ;D
(https://www.kumoricon.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv352%2Fmjbgsd%2FIMG_3928-1.jpg&hash=8015e9caf8f858799d2d0d13106f9c230ff329e9)
Thank you I know many people who don't think the same of us and it's good to hear another speak out that it truly makes me feel like I can cosplay!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Lin on August 04, 2011, 10:25:30 pm
Quote from: Drauska on July 22, 2011, 07:17:43 am
Ritsu-chan, go out there are just have fun with it.  If the squares in the world have a problem with your cosplay it's there problem not yours.  But if you want a fun visual that will make laugh.  This is my 3rd Kumoricon and the first time I'm going in cosplay.  Im a short fat girl and I'm cosplaying Vash the stampede a tall skinny guy and a genderbend of Wolfwood another tall skinny guy from Trigun.  I'm sure I will end up on an epic fail website but I love the characters and I'm just going to go out there and have a great time.  I'm sure your cosplay will be awesome.
You know what that makes you?! A chibi version! Chibi versions are adorable! ;D
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 04, 2011, 10:27:27 pm
YES!! XD by the way, you look amazing shikyo!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Lin on August 04, 2011, 10:29:22 pm
I try to build my confidence up by dying my hair fun colors or running around covered in fake tattoos! Point is to wear whatever it is enough in public to get comfy in it that way you don't have to give to shakes what anyone thinks. More power to you!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 05, 2011, 03:54:46 pm
Quote from: Dubaby on August 04, 2011, 09:30:41 pm
As far as modesty level goes, I generally have a hard time with anything that shows my stomach, is REALLY skin-tight, or shows my upper thigh, which sucks because there are a few characters I'd really like to do but I'm too afraid to try because of this.

I'm the same way. I'm going to try to cosplay as Heather Mason from Silent Hill 3 next year and her skirt is a little too short for me. basically it all boils down to accuracy v.s. feeling comfortable. I, however, will choose to feel comfortable.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 06, 2011, 06:24:25 pm
Yeah, I was thinking of making my skirt for yui next year a little extra long thank you :)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Lin on August 06, 2011, 06:28:57 pm
If you are uncomfortable in short skirts make them short skorts!  ;D
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 06, 2011, 07:35:04 pm
I wear shorts under every skirt/dress i wear XDDD
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Raven on August 06, 2011, 07:54:28 pm
Recently I've decided to post some of my cosplays up on DeviantArt... and while most comments have been fairly decent ones, I did recieve two, on seperate photos, in which one guy said that my friend and I were both Fat, and another in which a guy said, and I quote (or rather copy and paste ... please excuse the language) "**** disgrace. this is ****."
While these comments did hurt me a bit, I know it was just some jerks trying to troll me ... and I will not let them discourage me!!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: bunny_jean on August 06, 2011, 08:11:46 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on August 06, 2011, 07:35:04 pm
I wear shorts under every skirt/dress i wear XDDD
Wearing Lolita has made me feel naked if I don't wear bloomers under every skirt or dress I wear. XD Same with tank tops. I wear a spaghetti strap tank top under everything.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 06, 2011, 10:07:32 pm
Quote from: bunny_jean on August 06, 2011, 08:11:46 pm
Quote from: Tanuki19 on August 06, 2011, 07:35:04 pm
I wear shorts under every skirt/dress i wear XDDD
XD Same with tank tops. I wear a spaghetti strap tank top under everything.
ME TOO. it was a habit i picked up in like 5th grade and it's never stopped XDDD

Quote from: Raven on August 06, 2011, 07:54:28 pm
Recently I've decided to post some of my cosplays up on DeviantArt... and while most comments have been fairly decent ones, I did recieve two, on seperate photos, in which one guy said that my friend and I were both Fat, and another in which a guy said, and I quote (or rather copy and paste ... please excuse the language) "**** disgrace. this is ****."
While these comments did hurt me a bit, I know it was just some jerks trying to troll me ... and I will not let them discourage me!!
They're just jealous of your awesome skills!!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Runa on August 09, 2011, 07:57:44 am
Quote from: Tobias on August 01, 2011, 08:05:53 pm
Well, I'll post my story. 

I've got a problem when it comes to cosplaying: I'm black. I've got very few options if I want to be an accurate cosplayer, and most of the characters I don't like or I've never heard of them.  ....<snip>

I'd say don't worry about race / skin color. I asked my Japanese exchange students and they said that they feel that nearly all anime characters are Japanese (there are a few characters in some shows that declare that they are not Japanese, but all the rest are considered Japanese).

So, given that about 98+% of Kumoricon attendees are decidedly NOT Japanese, it means NONE of us are the "correct race" for the characters. So pick a character you like and go for it. The Japanese choose the very pale skin color for the characters because that's the color they have traditionally used in their artwork for skin color - despite the fact that it's not even close to actual skin color of the average Japanese person. It's art - they can do that. (This is likely because they want to increase the contrast between the skin color and the character's clothing, features, etc. This is also why many anime characters have non-natural hair colors - it's easier to tell which character is which)

====
As for gaining confidence in cosplaying, here are a few tips:
    * Don't start with a costume that is totally different from your usual clothing - if you normally don't wear revealing clothing, then you'll feel uncomfortable walking around in something that's just barely more than a bikini. There are even some characters that wear ordinary-looking clothing with a few "quirks" that makes them recognizable (but only by those who have seen the anime... I call that "stealth cosplay" because when you wear it outside of convention, no one notices, but when you arrive at Kumoricon, everyone addresses you by the character's name).
    * SMILE  :D   You'll be amazed how far that gets you.
    * Wear comfortable shoes - yes, your character wears 6" heels, but can YOU walk around in those all day? Probably not. Bring footwear you can walk in comfortably. You can always carry the stilettos in a bag and wear them only for photoshoots.
    * Think about what you'll be doing during the day - the chairs in all of the rooms are wool, and lots of others (some unwashed) have sat on them. Do you REALLY want to have a skirt so short that you have bare skin on the seat? (ewwwwww)
    * Remember - cosplay is just interesting / different clothing. Yes people will stare at you on the train, but I bet they're thinking "cool clothes!"
    * There will always be mean people. Ignore them. The rest of us think you look awesome.
    * If you want help improving your cosplay, ask for advice from cosplayers who have done it for a long time
    * Cosplay is supposed to be fun - it's "Costume Play"...
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: @random on August 09, 2011, 11:42:46 am
^ This post is made of win. (^_^)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: AllyKat on August 09, 2011, 02:55:44 pm
So...

I thought I might chime in...

I have insecurities about breathing, so it would stand to reason that everything about cosplay freaks me out.

I want to do it PERFECT which is impossible at my skill level, and I feel so insecure about performing a character when
I don't know every detail about them... I am always worried that if I finish and wear xxxxx cosplay, I'll be expected to
be an expert on the character. I'd like to get better at making Cosplays but my confidence and my skills stay low so
I only really have one cosplay... and most'd probably consider it a closet cosplay (Heather Mason SH3).

My weight has never gotten me down... I am okay with being curvy. What upsets me is how my weight is distributed,
I have this lovely little ponch belly that is the DEFINITION of that horrible ugly muffin top in lowrise pants or tight jeans.
It affects where jeans and skirts and dresses sit and fall on my hips making me look proportionally pregnant or just sloppy.

If I could just cosplay my face... I probably would, this may sound vain but I like my face and smile, I also like that my head
will fit most any wig with ease. But a cosplay is not just your head... :)

I keep working on dieting in order to give myself smoother proportions but strict food regimens have NEVER been easy
for me, cause I love food too much!

Anyone ever had good tips for sticking to a goal for body fat loss?
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 09, 2011, 10:15:51 pm
I love food too, it's so hard when someone sets a box of donuts down to say no.... I'm just fat all over but i'm trying to slim down, i've lost 8 lbs so far, I just lift weights, dance, do ab, but and thigh work out reps and I walk and drink tons of water!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Lylandra76 on August 10, 2011, 12:59:26 am
Quote from: Raven on July 22, 2011, 10:05:28 am
I always feel this way, to be honest  ...
And like some of the others posting so far, it's partly to do with my body image ... I'm chubby myself, and well, I have an awkward time doing crossplays because my figure is too womanly T__T (even though I prefer doing Crossplays *does not like looking girly*)... I also worry because I'm not exactly the youngest person anymore and feel kind of old compared to so many of the other cosplayers who are still in their teens *is 27 years old* .... but I do it anyway, because I just like the characters I cosplay as and I think it's loads of fun ...
But I always wonder is people will accept me as the character I am cosplaying as ... still, I say that it's more important to do what you love, whether or not you make the best looking "whatever character you're cosplaying as" ... it's just important to have fun and love what you are doing!! ^__^
There will always be someone out there who will think you look awesome too, if that helps any!
Shussh children, try starting out at 35:o. This will be my first con and cosplay but I am of the opinion that it doesn't matter what others think as long as you have fun. I am too tired (old?) to figure out what others want me to be and make myself what they expect. Life is too short to be what others want you to be and it's not fun either. Be yourself and have fun. ;D
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Zensuke on August 10, 2011, 01:47:31 am
Ha, I think it's awesome to see some one starting at 35. Some one asked me not long ago if I thought I was getting too old for cosplay (I'm 24) I stared at them for a second and then asked "Why would I ever be too old to be awesome?"
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: bunny_jean on August 10, 2011, 07:44:08 am
^^^ That's totally where I am. XD I'm starting grad school and I'm still in to cosplay? Sweet.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Runa on August 10, 2011, 08:20:39 am
Kids, I've been cosplaying / wearing costumes to conventions for OVER 25 years. One is NEVER too old to cosplay  :)

There are some costumers in their 70s (one I know is 76!) at Science Fiction conventions who are not only wearing awesome costumes, but also competing in the costume competition. So don't go calling yourself "old" cosplayers - We're "well-seasoned".  :P

Again, it's all in the attitude. Besides, generally speaking my costumes are far nicer looking style-wise than anything that I've ever seen in the mall or fashion magazine. I just love some of the awesome details that costume designers come up with.

Of course, older cosplayers do have to think more about ensuring that they wear comfortable shoes and supportive undergarments. But that's another conversation.  ;)

Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 10, 2011, 03:42:21 pm
My girlfriend and I plan to cosplay until we're super old!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Lady Locust on August 16, 2011, 08:46:49 pm
Everyone looks good naked, so don't worry too much about what you're wearing.
I agree with what Tobias said, you're doing it because you love it. The people who usually label people as 'fat -cosplay here-' are cosplay elitists who's shallow opinions don't matter :|
Yeaaah....everything I want to say has already been said. Remember the most important part of cosplaying: Have fun making it so you can have even more fun wearing it.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Roah on August 16, 2011, 09:43:05 pm
I just started cosplaying two years ago. Kumoricon was actually my first con- I did a Young Link.

It's funny, I never felt insecure about my weight until I started lurking the seagulls (sorry if you don't know what I'm talking about). Sometimes I feel insecure about my costumes 'cause I'm not much of a craftsman and even worse of a sewer, but then I remember I ultimately don't care :D Fortunately the pacific northwest is full of awesome happy people so we have a little more leniency when it comes to costumes. I've haven't been to a con yet that was full of mean people.

So uh...best thing you can do is be confident and outgoing I guess. Be nice to others and everyone will be nice to you :) and then who cares about your costume! We're all out of place in some way or another haha
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Pein_Cupcake on August 20, 2011, 07:47:55 pm
Hey there!
So I, too, have issues with my body. There is some times where I don't even want to go out because I don't feel comfortable. By the end of the cosplay outing, I usually have a blast. I think the key to confidence in cosplay is to remember, no matter what people say to you, you are still individual, invaluable, and irreplaceable. If you have fun, why would it matter what people say? It may hurt to be called weird or a freak, but I like being called those. I take pride in those names. Remember, you are all ALWAYS beautiful!
And never forget: Haters make us famous!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Runa on August 21, 2011, 03:20:27 pm
Quote from: AllyKat on August 09, 2011, 02:55:44 pm
So...

I thought I might chime in...

I have insecurities about breathing, so it would stand to reason that everything about cosplay freaks me out.

I want to do it PERFECT which is impossible at my skill level, and I feel so insecure about performing a character when
I don't know every detail about them... I am always worried that if I finish and wear xxxxx cosplay, I'll be expected to
be an expert on the character. .... <snip>

No human is PERFECT. That's part of what makes us human. Perfection is for Deities (gods).... so don't worry about it  :D
Trust me, you don't have to know much about the character you're cosplaying as... I usually don't remember - but others will recall and will provide the details that I'll forget about 20 minutes later.   Just wear something that you like and have fun. About all you REALLY have to know about the character is the character's name so that if someone addresses you using the character's name, you'll respond. Other than that - who cares? If you are entering your costume for Cosplay, you would likely want to know details, but if you're just wandering the halls in costume, it doesn't matter at all.   :)
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 23, 2011, 09:49:15 am
We are approaching con! I'm so nervous and excited! Let's cosplay with confidence guys! We'll all look great!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 23, 2011, 02:17:08 pm
I was beginning to worry about my Heather cosplay because the skirt is short [well, to me] and my mom said the whole outfit looks really tight, which it is. BUT I DON'T CARE BECAUSE HEATHER IS BOSS.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on August 23, 2011, 02:51:06 pm
I know the feeling with my x-2 Rikku. That skirt is so extremely short. There will be panty shots when I walk up stairs, but I got some great panties to show :P (its supposed to be a yellow swimsuit bottom but I couldn't find one with orange edging so I am doing it this way). The whole skirt is less than 8 inches long. x.x
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 23, 2011, 03:10:51 pm
0.0 wow, that is short! I know i definitely won't be bending down to pick up anything or going up any stairs. I don't think I'll really have to go up any stairs cause i'm wearing Heather on Day 0. And the reason why my skirt is tight is cause i have pretty fatty thighs DX
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 24, 2011, 08:43:05 am
I hate my fat thighs, thats mostly why I hated my amu cosplay.. Its ok nikkiole, kumoricon is kinda just like one big panty shot. Lol
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: TalaRedWolf33 on August 24, 2011, 10:55:32 am
Pfft i know how you feel. Im 19 and 5'8" and a good 300andsomething pounds. i have a heart and kidney problem though, so dieting is not allowed for me. My dr just tells me to watch the salt and walk a little extra mile rather than take the bus to the corner. But im not super insecure about my cosplaying. I mean, yea i wont be doing any skinny characters, but when i do cosplay, its usually an anthro or like minnie mouse so that body type and  weight dont matter.  Now about the being rude or just giving critizism, i need some help there. Theres this guy that is friends with my boyfriend who always finds someway to talk bout my weight when we hang out. Hes mentioned before that he doesnt get why jack is dating me cuz hes only ever dated small short skinny girls. Im taller than  jack, and as i said, 300lbs. Then he always goes on to ask if i have ever even tried a diet. I have, and ended up almost killing myself. I tell him this and he tells me i should try leposuction. Jack says that i shouldnt worry bout what h
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: TalaRedWolf33 on August 24, 2011, 11:03:31 am
Phone cut me off lol ok so jack says i shouldnt worry bout what he says, that thats just how he is, but in the 2 years we have been dating and the year and an half ive know his friend, i have never once heard him say anything about jacks weight. I just cant tell if he is being mean or is really trying to help. Him and i are friends so i try not to dwell on it too much and just have fun when we all hang out but last night he said something that made of want to post here. He told of that i should not cosplay lolita because of my body type. he didnt say it in a mean way but i couldnt really tell cuz we texting. What do you guys think?
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 24, 2011, 02:25:10 pm
Quote from: TalaRedWolf33 on August 24, 2011, 11:03:31 am
He told of that i should not cosplay lolita because of my body type.

I've always thought that lolita looks good on everyone!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: TalaRedWolf33 on August 24, 2011, 02:40:44 pm
Thank you! My thoughts exactly.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 24, 2011, 02:45:11 pm
I'm chubby but i have a lolita costume and i think i look great in it! Lolita isn't a character so it can be pulled off by anyone!
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 27, 2011, 03:47:26 pm
Sounds like this guy needs to learn some effing manners and I can teach him if you like? You don't talk to a lady about her weight... Ever. Its just bad manners, straight up rude, he sounds like a prick who thinks you aren't beautiful or a good person how you are.. Thats not ok, and anyone can wear lolita, in fact lolita is meant to be cutesy and childish( loli complexes derp) so rouund faces are better, making lolita a thing only for this girls is saying that only thin girls can be cute or sexy.. BS. I'm 250 and 5'6" and I bet i'd look damn adorable! I'm sure you would to.. Screw him. You need to tell him to shut his mouth... Or you will. Leave it at that until he says somethin else.. Then make him regret it..
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: TalaRedWolf33 on August 27, 2011, 05:38:41 pm
Yea. And not to mention, hes hella skinny and hes on a diet. Which only makes things worse cuz he complains about what i eat. But thank you, lol my boyfriend says im really adorable and a lot of people tell me i act really cute.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Jacob_Blackfeather on August 27, 2011, 05:49:42 pm
I am 220 5'10 people still call me fat and it makes me feel horrible and upset...
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on August 27, 2011, 05:50:05 pm
I think the secret to not feeling insecure is just not caring what others think. It takes a lot of work but when in costume I find myself not caring. However, if I think about it before hand then I feel a littler insecure. But I am not going to care at all what others thinks.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Tanuki19 on August 27, 2011, 10:51:13 pm
^ That is a great mindset.

One thing that always helps me when I'm feeling insecure about my weight or whatever is i think "How does me being this way, affect that anyone's day? It doesn't. It doesn't cause them harm so why the hell should they care?"
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: CLAP_attack on August 28, 2011, 01:57:07 am
such words of amazing wisdom , Nikkiolie !
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: nikkiolie on August 28, 2011, 02:37:26 am
I was half a sleep when I wrote that so I can elaborate a little bit more. Take my Kuja for example. When I first got the costume I was freaked out that it was so skimpy and I was going to be showing a lot. I was trying so hard to lose weight and look better in the costume and I didn't end up losing any weight at all. Though I still wore the costume. When I was in costume I was having too much fun to remember that I wasn't wearing much clothes. Yes during pictures I made a mental note of sucking my stomach in, and in some pictures I forgot.

I am kinda in the same boat with rikku (x-2 not X). I am worried that I will be called fat (don't worry I know I am not fat its just the messed up views by others). I have worked out quite hard and ate really well for the past month and a half for this costume and I have seen progress. I used to have a much bigger buldge on my stomach but now its almost gone. Though no matter what I do I still look bigger than I really am in the pictures I have taken of myself. I'm not going to let that ruin my fun though. I am going to keep working out (by the way I am doing this for myself to keep in shape and what not, I could lose a few pounds and still be in the normal range) and eating right.

Another way to look at it is if you see someone cosplaying a character you like what do you do? Run up to them tell them how much you love the character and take a picture. Do you notice the weight or the craftmanship of the costume? No you are just glad someone else shares your love for the character. People at the con will be having a fun time and wont notice the things you are worried about (most of the time they are tiny details that people will only notice if pointed out). If you do run into someone that is a bit of a sour puss and insulting just brush them off. I can't even begin to explain why they do it. There are so many reasons, jelous, put others down to feel better about themselves, just like to be mean...the list goes on. Don't dwell on it. And by all means DO NOT let it ruin your con.
Title: Re: Insecurity in Cosplying
Post by: Ritsu-chan on August 28, 2011, 08:00:36 am
We all thank you for your encouragment and advice nikkiole!