Author Topic: How to Cope with a Break Up? (Read 40746 times)

Runa · « **Reply #50 on:** May 19, 2007, 07:43:54 am »

Yowza....It's too bad there isn't an "escape" button for your situation (well, there is--break the lease and move someplace else...). I think you should run...fast.

After reading what you've been going through, it's dawned on me how lucky I am to have found my husband.

and to have a dad like the one I've got.

Washougal_Otaku · « **Reply #51 on:** May 19, 2007, 12:08:49 pm »

*HUGS FOR LEASHY*

Sorry, but this is the best I can do. Advice from me = bad things.

leashy · « **Reply #52 on:** May 19, 2007, 12:28:53 pm »

Quote from: "Washougal_Otaku"

*HUGS FOR LEASHY*

Sorry, but this is the best I can do. Advice from me = bad things.

How about we just shant again on AIM haha it;s been awhile and you always put me in a better mood silly!

[EDIT]
OMG!!! I just helped a lady named Chun Li!!! My life feels fulfilling once again! *-* <3

Washougal_Otaku · « **Reply #53 on:** May 19, 2007, 12:32:24 pm »

I'm glad to hear that, leashy. but, actually, I'm on a school computer right now, & AIM doesn't work on them, for some reason. How about PM's?

leashy · « **Reply #54 on:** May 19, 2007, 12:56:34 pm »

I'm at work so I can't AIM anyway PMs are great haha

Washougal_Otaku · « **Reply #55 on:** May 19, 2007, 12:59:11 pm »

Splendid!

superjaz · « **Reply #56 on:** May 19, 2007, 08:47:42 pm »

Quote from: "Runa"

After reading what you've been going through, it's dawned on me how lucky I am to have found my husband. and to have a dad like the one I've got.

thats how i feel about kendo boyfriend

but yeah leashy he's being what i like to call a jerk face

Washougal_Otaku · « **Reply #57 on:** May 20, 2007, 08:31:23 am »

:lol:

Jerk face

:lol:

RoamingGnome · « **Reply #58 on:** May 20, 2007, 12:34:04 pm »

Quote from: "leashy"

So I got home today after work and it is like this morning never happened. Layton is snapping at me like usual. We played a game of Risk on the PS2 and he was a dick and he is just treating me like I am dumb and being all "cool" in front of his friend who I might had HAS BEEN HERE FOR A WEEK and I am at the point where he better start paying rent or give me my couch back.

ugh.. Guys of the world, I'm sorry but you suck.

Well being one of the guys of the world I offer my most heartfelt " I'm sorry". I guess we guys can't police all our own :wink:

Vondan · « **Reply #59 on:** May 20, 2007, 01:55:39 pm »

So every one bring a nice nerdy single anime fanboy about 22 to 25 to the con so Leashy has many options. And find out if he has a young aunt or much older sister too.

Von "Some kids have said about what I would say" Dan

leashy · « **Reply #60 on:** May 20, 2007, 08:33:59 pm »

Quote from: "Vondan"

So every one bring a nice nerdy single anime fanboy about 22 to 25 to the con so Leashy has many options.

I will glomp you if you do!!!! <3 That would be an amazing couple of days ^~

Vondan · « **Reply #61 on:** May 20, 2007, 08:48:08 pm »

Quote from: "leashy"

Quote from: "Vondan"
So every one bring a nice nerdy single anime fanboy about 22 to 25 to the con so Leashy has many options.

I will glomp you if you do!!!! <3 That would be an amazing couple of days ^~

oh and the guys all have to cosplay Col Guil or Man Beast Blanca

leashy · « **Reply #62 on:** May 20, 2007, 11:51:44 pm »

omg no eww.. I would flip. Ryu please!

Vondan · « **Reply #63 on:** May 21, 2007, 06:06:30 am »

Quote from: "leashy"

omg no eww.. I would flip. Ryu please!

Forum Update:

ALL male contestants in the 20 something round of Anime dating game with Batchlorete Leashy must cosplay Ryu.

dakrum · « **Reply #64 on:** May 21, 2007, 02:09:38 pm »

Quote from: "Vondan"

Quote from: "leashy"
omg no eww.. I would flip. Ryu please!

Forum Update:

ALL male contestants in the 20 something round of Anime dating game with Batchlorete Leashy must cosplay Ryu.

wahaha

Baldafor · « **Reply #65 on:** May 22, 2007, 10:09:02 pm »

I understand your pain for sure. I did the live-in girlfriend myself for a year and a half, and when the break up happened, there was quite a lot of drama and such. For a few days, we had "our side of the bed", then I just basically relegated myself to the couch permanently (still haven't moved back, lol, it's comfy).

That was months ago, and it feels nice to be rid of the whole thing. You deserve better, most certainly. There are some things that people just have to have in common or it just won't work out in the long run. I am a major commitment person myself, and lately all I have been finding are people who are new to the commitment thing or are completely opposed to the idea (it's strange being a guy and having ladies wanting the relationship to be "friends with benefits").

I think it is all a matter of just living your life, not secluding yourself, and eventually the right thing will come along. Putting yourself out there a bit helps. Desperation shouldn't be part of your game plan, as that only gets you the worst kind of people.

But what do I know? I am one of those dumb boys after all.

ROFL, as a side note, all of my friends (at least 7, 8 counting me) are males between the ages of 22-25, are all gamers and into anime, and are all single. I already got 3 of them to agree to come to the con.

I should stop lurking and become more official on here..

leashy · « **Reply #66 on:** May 22, 2007, 10:12:56 pm »

Layton just told me that he is glad that I am moving out especially because he doesn't have to speak to me again in a month in a half and that life is going to be so much better with out me.

Boy do I feel special right now.

P.S. Thanks for you input Baldafor, everyone here makes things a little earier to deal with.

Vondan · « **Reply #67 on:** May 22, 2007, 10:34:47 pm »

Sounds like it will be a smorgishboard for Leashy

leashy · « **Reply #68 on:** May 22, 2007, 10:43:26 pm »

Haha Vondan, you really seem stuck on this dating game idea.

Not that I am entirely against the idea or anything :wink: Haha when it is ready to happen it will happen, just can't rush into anything.

reppy · « **Reply #69 on:** May 23, 2007, 12:36:35 am »

:O

A cute anime fan girl will not stay single for long.

Kinda wish I wasn't the only person in my area that likes anime. I mean, I'm sure there are others.. but it's a small town.. and.. I dunno. Never know if someone is an "anime fan" or like.. an anime fan.. know what I mean?

superjaz · « **Reply #70 on:** May 23, 2007, 10:35:54 am »

leashy he's gonna miss out not having you in his life, by better he might mean just play more video games and that dosen't take place of humans
he'll be like a mold slug thingy in a few weeks (i've seen it happen before it scary)

anywho should i start making ryo costumes to randomly ornot so randonly making guys wear

leashy · « **Reply #71 on:** May 25, 2007, 08:20:12 pm »

I... I came home and all of Layton's stuff is gone I can't stop crying...

totemo_oishii · « **Reply #72 on:** May 25, 2007, 08:25:00 pm »

[hugs Leashy]

leashy · « **Reply #73 on:** May 25, 2007, 08:38:47 pm »

I need to hug someone so bad right now and all I have is a cell phone...

pieisexactlythree · « **Reply #74 on:** May 25, 2007, 10:22:33 pm »

(((((leashy)))))

TheInsanePuck · « **Reply #75 on:** May 26, 2007, 01:13:11 pm »

as man of the world who has been pardoned by many girls who say I do not suck...here is my advice to you... dude is not worth your time and will get his come- up-ence via karma or a strapping young man named Puck -does the suave brushing hair out of the way thing-

but seriously dude has some serious problems and should be put in the back of your mind and forgotten... from what I have read sounds like dude (sorry for calling him dude so many times but its cause its pretty much all I can think of calling him besides a$$hole) has a case of trying to be mr joe cool around his buddies which makes him turn into a massive.... uhmmm bad guy

but honestly go out with the girls on the forum have yourself a good time and like have a good time all I can really say.... in the break up business when I broke up with my ex fiance I had one hell of a time trying to get over it but what I did was stayed around my buddies and they helped out alot.... so stick with your best friends and they shall make you feel better

my last word of advice is this from my buddy jake when I broke up with my ex fiance.... he said " Dude you gotta imagine all the memories in your hand and drop em to the ground... do not hold onto them or else wounds never heal just drop em and move on" may not sound like much but it helped me out alot and so yeah

leashy · « **Reply #76 on:** May 26, 2007, 02:03:38 pm »

*huggles* thanks for your input. I know I will get over it and I can be strong it is just.. I guess I expected more "closure" and I feel like if I could just pinpoint what it was that I did wrong, although I know that there is not one thing that went wrong or that I did wrong for that matter. I feel kinda dumb for having let it go on this long because I know that really I have been alone for a lot longer than this month and have been holding on to this idea that the bad stuff would just magically disappear and that I was.. happy..

I have been trying to do alot more with friends and keep everyone in the loop and myself busy.

Thank you for your support though.. I need to let it go, it would be such a weight off my shoulders, I just need to let out the pain for the time being.

However if anyone wants to hang out, please let me know! I am all for it!

superjaz · « **Reply #77 on:** May 26, 2007, 02:46:55 pm »

we will see you today for hanging outness
!!!

leashy · « **Reply #78 on:** June 26, 2007, 11:14:18 pm »

So this is largely just a follow up post ^^ I wanted to thank everyone for your support! You all really said some helpful things and I appreciate it so very much.

You all will be happy to know that in a very unexpected and pretty crazy turn of events I have actually started dating someone from the convention/forums. I shall keep you guessing as to who the lucky guy is however ^~

Thanks Everyone!

TomtheFanboy · « **Reply #79 on:** June 27, 2007, 07:24:00 am »

You won't keep all of us guessing! :3 Yay for Leashy!

RoamingGnome · « **Reply #80 on:** June 27, 2007, 07:30:10 am »

Thats great. I really hope things work out for you. Its always nice to date those with similar interests too.

makichan · « **Reply #81 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:31:50 am »

Quote from: "leashy"

So this is largely just a follow up post ^^ I wanted to thank everyone for your support! You all really said some helpful things and I appreciate it so very much.

You all will be happy to know that in a very unexpected and pretty crazy turn of events I have actually started dating someone from the convention/forums. I shall keep you guessing as to who the lucky guy is however ^~

Thanks Everyone!

you won't tell me on myspace and you won't tell me heeeere lol I wanna know >__<;;
but yay for it happening, regardless of whether or not I know who it is atm

Radien · « **Reply #82 on:** June 29, 2007, 01:19:55 am »

I just wanted to post here and thank everybody who gave advice and support for Leashy during her tough time. I wasn't formally introduced to her until about two weeks ago, and I usually stick to the event-planning topics here on the forums, so I didn't initially notice this thread. However, when I did read it, I found that most all of you have been really thoughtful, mature, and helpful.

It makes me happy to know that folks like you are going to Kumori Con.

In case you hadn't figured out by the way I am talking, Leashy and I are seeing eachother now. ^^ The reason she said it was "crazy" is because we've both been hanging around the same forums and going to the same convention meetings for almost a year now, and yet the June staff meeting was the first time we ever really met and struck up a conversation. After that we immediately hit it off, hehe. ^_^;

( Here's a hint to you girls out there: if you've just met someone you like, but he seems shy, borrowing his cell phone and programming your phone number into it is a really good way to get his attention. >.> )

Greyman · « **Reply #83 on:** June 29, 2007, 02:50:59 am »

Awww!!!! Lucky Leashy!!!

Oh where oh where is my future love?

...*peaks around corners*

>___>

<___<

leashy · « **Reply #84 on:** June 29, 2007, 08:00:37 am »

Hrrmm.. Greyman did you just try to add me to myspace? Because if so I rejected it because I didn't know who you were so you may want to try again ^^;

Quote from: "Radien"

( Here's a hint to you girls out there: if you've just met someone you like, but he seems shy, borrowing his cell phone and programming your phone number into it is a really good way to get his attention. >.> )

Ahem, works like a charm ^~ *HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY*

makichan · « **Reply #85 on:** June 29, 2007, 10:55:49 am »

Quote

Ahem, works like a charm ^~ *HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY

wow lol leashy is quite the smooth operator xD

superjaz · « **Reply #86 on:** June 29, 2007, 02:03:04 pm »

Quote from: "leashy"

Quote from: "Radien"
( Here's a hint to you girls out there: if you've just met someone you like, but he seems shy, borrowing his cell phone and programming your phone number into it is a really good way to get his attention. >.> )
Ahem, works like a charm ^~ *HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY*

thats awesome

Greyman · « **Reply #87 on:** June 29, 2007, 02:13:59 pm »

Yes, I did try and add you *retries*

Yeah, dang clever leashy!

I wonder if the same would work the other way around.... Or would it just be creepy if a guy did it? O_O

guspasho · « **Reply #88 on:** June 29, 2007, 03:06:59 pm »

Quote from: "Radien"

( Here's a hint to you girls out there: if you've just met someone you like, but he seems shy, borrowing his cell phone and programming your phone number into it is a really good way to get his attention. >.> )

Crap. I was going to start a forum pool

shadowfox · « **Reply #89 on:** June 30, 2007, 01:44:13 pm »

congrats to you Leashy and Radien ^^ I hope everything works out okay. If anyone else doesn't mind me asking, I would also like a bit of advise as well.
Well, it all started out with me and one of my co-workers. I became friends with him around the time that I started working there. Six months later, i broke my own rule (don't date your co-workers) and started dating him . Too bad it only lasted a month. I stopped talking to him because I found out that he was trying to get with my sister at a party. That failed, so he called her a few days after to try to get together again. Unfortunately for him, he didn't know that we were sisters, or that she told me everything. I never even told her that me and him were dating (she still doesn't know). Its been a year now since I stopped talking to him, but I still see him at work day after day, I even found out that he is engaged to his ex-girlfriend. he still doesn't know why I stopped talking to him.
Now I became friends with another guy at work (David). he's already asked me out about five times already, but I turned him down and told him that i don't date my co-workers. We're still really good friends though. But lately, he's been afraid to talk to me. That first guy that I was with became promoted to supervisor, and he told David not to talk to me. he even told him that I'm always stalking him and begging for his number. I was really surprised hen David told me this because I never told him about the supervisor and Me in the past. I really want to keep my mouth shut, but its really bugging me that he is spreading rumors. But I also think that it was kinda childish the way that i treated him the past year. Quite honestly, I don't know how I should react to this situation.

RoamingGnome · « **Reply #90 on:** June 30, 2007, 02:09:07 pm »

Personally I would go to his manager and complain. I get the feeling if nothing is said it might get worse.

leashy · « **Reply #91 on:** June 30, 2007, 02:22:50 pm »

Quote from: "shadowfox"

congrats to you Leashy and Radien ^^ I hope everything works out okay. If anyone else doesn't mind me asking, I would also like a bit of advise as well.
Well, it all started out with me and one of my co-workers. I became friends with him around the time that I started working there. Six months later, i broke my own rule (don't date your co-workers) and started dating him . Too bad it only lasted a month. I stopped talking to him because I found out that he was trying to get with my sister at a party. That failed, so he called her a few days after to try to get together again. Unfortunately for him, he didn't know that we were sisters, or that she told me everything. I never even told her that me and him were dating (she still doesn't know). Its been a year now since I stopped talking to him, but I still see him at work day after day, I even found out that he is engaged to his ex-girlfriend. he still doesn't know why I stopped talking to him.
Now I became friends with another guy at work (David). he's already asked me out about five times already, but I turned him down and told him that i don't date my co-workers. We're still really good friends though. But lately, he's been afraid to talk to me. That first guy that I was with became promoted to supervisor, and he told David not to talk to me. he even told him that I'm always stalking him and begging for his number. I was really surprised hen David told me this because I never told him about the supervisor and Me in the past. I really want to keep my mouth shut, but its really bugging me that he is spreading rumors. But I also think that it was kinda childish the way that i treated him the past year. Quite honestly, I don't know how I should react to this situation.

Hmm.. You know if he is a "supervisor" he needs to be more concerned with DOING HIS JOB while at work than spreading rumors. Ok so there are a few things you could do.

The first is to keep your mouth shut and wait it out.. I wouldn't really suggest this one.

The second, confront your ex yourself. Have a civil conversation with him, tell him that you have heard a few things and that you would like to keep it professional at work.

The third, transfers. Haha screw them all and transfer and then you can date David ^^

The fourth, tell someone. Like jason said, there has to be a manager you could report these goings on to.. I mean this is a mild form of harassment really and I would expect more from a supervisor. If you can't talk to the manager or don't feel comfortable then most places have an anonymous HR line that you can call and report things to. Check your breakroom because they probably have the number posted in there <3

Hope that helps sweety. Where do you work anyway?

shadowfox · « **Reply #92 on:** July 01, 2007, 02:04:51 pm »

Thanks for your help ^^ I work at a casino...with a staff of around 800. I'm a Server. Its full of drama, some even worse than mine. I'm thinking that I should confront him 'cause I think that he's been telling all the guys that I talk to at work these things. I really need to clear things up ^///^ thanks XOXO ^^

Greyman · « **Reply #93 on:** July 01, 2007, 02:54:18 pm »

Wow, Jesus. That's fairly messed up Shadowfox. Hope it works out alright for you. I'd say your lucky that he's only one in 800, but that's obviously not being too strong of an advantage.

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Author Topic: How to Cope with a Break Up? (Read 40746 times)