Regarding your RPG Mistress, your best bet to get ahold of her other than her email (which she hasn't been responding to much/at all lately either, and since she rarely checks the forums) is, oddly enough, through me (though I've not heard a lot from her the last few days either).
In seeing her a bit at our Sunday game, actually, we did discuss some of the stuff we'll be trying to run. The bad news is that I'm not certain we'll have the cosplay LARP we were considering doing ready to go - there's way too much work required to make that one tolerable at the moment. The good news is that by the look of it there may be several sitdown RPGs going, as well as other such things.
L5R is a definite go for the con this year at the very least (Nyco - the RPG ops person, will be running that). Feng Shui and BESM (D20) are also likely to be available, and the aforementioned Munchkin Fu (if not some/all the other Munchkins) and Ninja Burger will both be available (These are all games in my possession, and since I'm helping Nyco out...).
If it's like it was last year, there were a couple other groups that just brought their stuff, stole a table, and went to town as well.
And regarding...
i dont wanna run into a bunch of everquest addicts beating each other with foam swords
Hey now, not everyone who does such foam swordfighting (aka - boffing) is an Everquest addict... I have never played Everquest (nor do I intend to), but I enjoyed the boffing scene while I was involved in it. Nonetheless, no, there is no plan for allowing that as far as I am aware... I just have this hunch that the hotel staff would REALLY not like us very much if we did such things.
Anyways, that's what I know!
PezCat