I would like to complain that my VSM at work is being a total jerk to everyone today, putting us all in bad moods.
To comment on the public meetups vs at home meetups: I have had TONS of experiences from both sides of that war. Fact of the matter, is the more people you gather together, the more hectic & out of control it can become very quickly. You add in the mix a few very excitable & louder people, you are bound to annoy somebody for sure...especially in a place of business. If it were my place of business, I would be very annoyed fast if people were disrupting my customers by being loud & obnoxious. Which could very well lead me to throw them out in whatever way possible depending on the severity of the annoyance, or at the very least warn them that they need to stop or they will be thrown out.
I used to throw huge parties for peoples Birthdays & for holidays, but now, I find myself putting a limit on who & how many people more often than not because it gets out of control otherwise. Lots of people can be fun, but stressful on the person playing "ringleader" for the gathering...especially if they are taking the heat for their guests actions.
As far as the cosplay in public goes, you have to expect some kind of attention here & there due to the "out-of-the-norm" outfits. Some places may even have policies regarding masks for obvious reasons. The important thing to remember is that we are being given the PRIVELAGE to be on someone elses property or in their business. We do not own the place, so by all means we are expected to be respectful of that. You can still have fun & show respect at the same time.