I know I am gonna sound horrible for saying it but I honestly don't care:
All this basically comes down to is understanding your surroundings and yourself.
You cannot argue that it's not fair that just because you were wearing a revealing/cute/alluring
dress or garmet that you do NOT warrant leering, on the same token it is NOT an open invitation
to be flirted with/cat called. However, common sense must be put in place when you go out into
the free world when wearing such attire; men are going to look, the less polite are going to stare,
the rude are going to comment and the creepy are going to get up-close and personal. You are
first and foremost wearing something that will attract attention, you know this because it is the
precise reason why we cosplay, to get people to notice our amazing outfits. And while in con-space
you may be commented on by your craftsmanship or closeness to cannon-wear, out in the "real
world" all people without Anime-Cultural training see is a girl in a short skirt, or a low cut top or a
pretty pink frilly maid outfit walking around the streets of downtown with no real protection late
at night. They see someone who has made themselves a focus point, and they feel no reason not
to fall into the focus point. If you are attractive and young looking this doubles. It's just common
sense.
But, that doesn't help any con-goer protect themselves from the creeps and street folk that may
disregard your personal space and rights because you are dressed in a way that calls attention to
yourself. So; lets talk about options to protect from wierdos:
#1. Pick a new cosplay.
This isn't a fun one, but if you are afraid of being screwed with, choose a cosplay that is
either less conspicous or covers you up and doesn't look so alluring. Use this concept; what would
my non-anime understanding father/grandfather/cousin/brother think if a girl walked by in this outfit.
Regardless of how we feel we SHOULD be percieved in these outfits, we have no control over there
thoughts. If it's not worth it to you to be leered at for dressing that way, find something else.
#2. Carry mace.
It was discussed earlier yes, but some people don't seem to realize the ease and importance
of this. If you live/work/play in downtown portland, are female and you DO NOT carry mace, you are
doing yourself a dis-service. Just the comfort of having that blue canister around my neck on my ride
home on the max from Llyod Center, to S.E. Portland and Gresham quelled a LOT of my fears. If the
con decides mace is not allowed to be kept on any person in con-space, we may need to talk to the
board to change that rule. Clearly the girls of the con need security, and as long as we do not ABUSE
the privilage of having that security, I'm sure it would put a lot of minds at ease. I will tell you I personally
prefer the model I own:
http://www.basspro.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Product_10151_-1_10001_52110?cm_mmc=froogle-_-325-5-6-_--1-_-38-610-017-83&hvarAID=froogle&mr:trackingCode=954935A9-E881-DE11-B712-001422107090&mr:referralID=NANow, the picture shows a more "purse friendly" version, it's not very pretty of a canister, but the one I
carry comes in so many pretty colors and attaches right to my key chain, or if you wear a lanyard can be
clipped right on to that. Its great because it is a 3 in 1 pepper spray, military grade tear gas and UV
marking dye. This means that you imobilize, debilitate and then mark your attaker so that, if you get a good
descrip, and report it to the cops, if they find the guy they can identify them by the uv paint (which you
can't see in any light but uv and also does NOT wash of easily) for quick conviction! I have never had to
use this as long as I have held it around my neck and I lived in Gresham (need I go into how many times
gresham has been on TV for shootings, rape and kidnapping?) and S.E. Portland (gangs, drugs and more illegal
activity) for 3 years. All of which my jobs required me to be on my way home alone, at any time between 12:00am
and 1:00am. There is no fool proof way to stay safe, but you should no that any protection visible is a deterant.
Evil do-ers look for an easy target, if you look lost, without a cell phone and are alone or with girls your same
build and confusion, you are that easy target. So carry mace.
#3. Travel in groups!
You were probably doing this but your group needs to be more active and vigilant if indeed you were
in a group. And by group I don't mean 3 people, after 8pm in downtown portland, unless you are feeling like
playing a game of russian roulette, you should be with AT LEAST 6-8 people, and at least ONE of them should
be male. You are making friends at the convention anyway right? If you really need to travel more than 5 blocks
from the con-space, grab some guys to take with your group and chat them up, get them to join you to whatever
destination you are headed so that your group looks intimidating and non-confrontable. Also, make it a point to
know WHERE you are going and not look lost or confused, it's the weakest look a group of girls can present and
can be a green light for pestering from those that would do you harm. Sticking to a plan and staying in large groups
is not just SAFE, but FUN! The more the Merrier, right?
Every portlander should know these rules, keep the clothing simple, keep security on your person, visible or concealed
depending on the type (but have a permit please!) Look like you know where you are and what your doing, and stay
with a group whenever possible. It's the laws of a safe city dweller, and those who are NOT from metro should ask
those of us who have lived there and done that. It's a hard fact of life that cities just are not that secure, not as
secure as small towns at least, and even then I've seen more creeps messing with people in McMinnville then I ever
got in Portland, but that may be cause people in portland KNOW, and small town folk just have never gotten the message.
If you want to dress in a way that is attracting attention on ANY level or in ANY style, do so! Have fun! I plan to dress
as Card Captor Sakura Kinomoto, which means short frilly skirt and the whole nine yards, but I also plan to be prepared
for the wierdos, with my mace and my guy friends, and a well polished knowledge of the city. Lets all help eachother
have exactly the same tools for a safe convention!
~Allykat