I don't play games to have fun. I play games to compete. I compete because I enjoy competition.
I enjoy playing games when I can do so competitively, so the purpose is not lost, but I take games seriously. EVERY GAME I PLAY.
I think that a lot of people here don't understand that fact about us hardcore gamers. Being a hardcore gamer doesn't mean you play every game ever, or that you spend all your money on video games and play them non-stop. It means you can take the most pointless, trivial game (let's take Apples to Apples for example), and play it with the sole intent of winning. It's not about making people laugh or being social, it's about winning. That's the entirety of the game.
However, that doesn't necessarily characterize us out of game. While I play EVERY game seriously, I play a number of games WELL. When I encounter competition in these games, I do everything in my power to kill it, and play mean. In the game, the enemy becomes my enemy, and that's all I care about in terms of the game. That's what makes hardcore what it is: hardcore means that the core element of one's gaming is harsh, callous, and unforgiving. A lot of pro* and recreational gamers, however, interpret those actions as a reflection of character. My friends and I have been called bad sports, cheaters, or killjoys for doing everything it takes to win. I disagree with those labels absolutely. We're not playing to be mean, or to kill your fun. We're playing to win.
On the other hand, just because you're good at a game (I take games seriously - that doesn't mean I'm good at every game ever), don't expect me to turn on handicaps just to make it hard for you. If you don't want to play with me because I don't know the game, that's fine, but don't demean me by impairing yourself to make it "fair". I can get better to make it "fair". Until then, be content with winning or I'll play solo.
An easy win is neither exciting nor constructive though, so why take it? I'll do everything it takes to win, but I won't waste my time with perfect scores and showing off just because it's an easy match. I take advantage of easy wins to train myself to get better at a more versatile repertoire of tactics. When winning doesn't take effort NOW, I make an effort to improve so I can win more important matches in the FUTURE. I don't handicap myself to help others win: I just increase my risk so I can up my game.
Hopefully this was enlightening for recreational/pro gamers and decently representative of my fellow hardcore gamers.
<3,
Tofu
(shoutouts to ha~ma, KogaRyu, Seleucos, and xcthulhux; you mah bros dawgz)
* - I consider pro gamers and hardcore gamers very different. Pro gamers are people who focus on getting good at games and winning tournaments. For a pro gamer, it's a task to be completed. For hardcore gamers, it's simply how we play. A pro gamer might decide they want to become pro at a game, then buy it along with everything it takes to be the best, then grind it until they're happy with where they are in the game. A hardcore gamer will go to a game store, get a copy of Hello Kitty Adventures from the bargain bin, and figure out a way to play it competitively.