Lolita is a fashion from Japan. Here are some examples;
There are several large name brands such as Baby, the Stars Shine Bright
http://www.babyssb.co.jp/, Anglic Pretty
http://www.angelicpretty.com/ and Metamorphose
http://www.metamorphose.gr.jp/english just to name a few. Because it is acctual clothing and not a costume, the prices are generally very high, although alot of people but it from second hand stores such as Closet Child or make their own at home.
It's a conservitave fashion, and has many strict guildlines (Length of skirts/dresses shouldn't be revealing) and the "gothic" part is no where close to the western gothic, such as what Hot Topic has done with the Gothic Lolita things in their stores;
Is not Gothic Lolita.
A lolita Tea Party is just that, a group of people, dressesd in lolita fashion, drinking tea and eating pastries and other sweet foods (finger sandwhiches, scones, etc.)
Thanks Tom.
That's really helpful.