Is it possible to both love and hate someone at the same time?

[u2205]

So as some/many of you know I recently went through a very painful breakup for me. And in about the last month I've started to go over it and moved on to liking other people... But tonight... Not so much ><

I found out that she's going after another guy now and it feels like my hears is being ripped out by a bunch of Narutards with their fake plastic shurikens...

The advice my step-dad gave me was that even far away in the future she'll still have a piece of my heart even if I love someone else, which I can see being true...

I don't know whether I fell angry, crushed, hurt, still in love, etc... Any advice anyone?

[totemo_oishii]

[patpat][hug]

I'm terrible at giving advice, and seeing how I've never been in a relationship...

but if you ever feel like talking I'm here! 

[totemo_oishii]

 

[Daxe]

Contact me privately and give me complete details, perhaps we should even meet. I may be able to give you sound advice.

[melchizedek]

Go out for a night on the town, do something exciting to get your mind someplace else.  Brooding will only make it worse.

[superjaz]

if she is the type thats so easily to move on, that shows you how differnt you two are in what you want in a relationship
I was once in a relationship where the guy took me for granted and treated me badly (never considerd my feelings never called me when sad he would) to the point that i felt terrible about my selfit took seeing some one just treat the people around them nicely for no other reason then they were a nice person, this is what gave me a boost to break off things with other guy cuz i deserved to be treated that way too

it sound like yoy just need to not be in a relationship right now while you have so much on your plate
and suround yourself with peeps that are nice to you, with no alterier motive

[pieisexactlythree]

*There there* 

Patrick, I'm 30, as you know, and I can tell you that you'll never really get over the first one, or even any of the others.  Looking back, I'm greatful I had the most painful breakup with my first real love (I was 22) because it made me the person I am now. I wouldn't know as much as I do about being a human otherwise.  That's not helpful in the moment though, so I'll just reiterate what I said before.

there, there.  *pats Patrick on the shoulder*

[jaybug]

I bet you can't wait until your divorce now eh? Man if you think being dumped is bad, wait for that one.

Now is an excellent opportunity to work on you. try to do something about all the little things that make you an unwanted person. Like, from my experience only, stop correcting others so often; dress in clothes that others would not be embarrassed to be seen around you, just because you like them, does not mean they are nice for public consumption, not that you aren't Beau Brummel himself; learn how to communicate your feelings and needs without resorting to shouting matches. Basically find out everything about you, and work on the things that you are not so proud. This doesn't turn you into Brad Pitt or someone like that, but it does make it easier to look yourself in the mirror every morning. And if you start laughing at your own image in the mirror, it can't be a bad thing. You don't need to take yourself too seriously.

Or ignore this and woof down a 1/2 gallon of chocolate ice cream every day for the next couple of weeks.

[makichan]

well, by moving on so quickly, she might be getting herself into a short-lived relationship. Besides, the fact that you take your time, makes you more available for when the right person comes along.   
Still though, I understand the feeling. =/

[Washougal_Otaku]

Well, it sounds like you're getting enough love & support to feed an army.  You know what this means?

We're freakin' family!

My advice: Accept it.  Yeah, it sucks a bit.  I had that happen with me the last time I had a girlfriend, which was 8 years ago.  Even now, I still feel that part of me missing her, wondering what's going on with her life.  She told me about her first sexual experience less than a year after we split up.  (Not only did I not like it, I really hated how it happened).

The thing is, it's different to say you love someone while you're with them and after you go your own ways.  The pain is natural, but needs to die off soon.  Either date a new person yourself, or stay away from the idea for a while.  Maybe what you need the most is some Mustash time.

[TomtheFanboy]

Hmmm...... good advice, yes good advice.

My advice is this.

COLLEGE GIRLS.
Yes my friend, you are about to meet a whole new bunch of women in college and you'll have a chance to make a fresh start in a whole new social group!

Any high school relationship you have will be nothing after two months of the college scene. By Halloween you'll find somebody to take dancing at the very least, trust me.

Take everyone's advice for right now though, I'd give tips for what to do right now but I don't want to get too sleezy. 

[Daxe]

Yeah, highschool girls arent ready for a long term commitment, they just want the feeling of being loved for a while. Eventually they decide to call it off because they are too immature to realize they may have actually gotten exactly what they have dreamed about. They get scared. Give it some time and find yourself a college girl whos been outside the walls of highschool reality for a few years.

[superjaz]

So I'll just suck it up and wait 5 months!

then you will live it up! you are already a step ahead of a lot of collage guys i've seen as you are considerate and bath reguarly....and you have had a girlfriend, chris sez waaaaay ahead of the game

besides high school girls are for shigure